Dosa kah ?

" JANGAN MENGINGINI MILIK SESAMA MU MANUSIA" .... 

Sejak awal gue bekerja di kantor ini, gue sudah merasakan "diskriminasi" yang sangat besar. Gue gak tau apakah hal itu tepat dikatakan sebagai diskriminasi atau tidak...

1. Absensi.

Beberapa kali gue melihat, beberapa orang dengan santainya datang ke kantor walaupun gue  tau kalo jam kantor udah lewat and otomatis, kalo orang itu absen pasti akan termasuk kategori "terlambat" .... tapi ketika hal tersbut gue uangkapkan dalambentuk pertanyaan, mereka selalu membela diri bahwa hal yang mereka lakukan sudah sepengetahuan pihak "YANG BERWENANG" untuk hal ini, so santai aja lah ... HOW COME ??? 

2. Penggantian Biaya Pengobatan.

Yang satu ini...#sigh.. bener-bener diluar nalar gue. Seingat gue dan hasil tanya sana-sini kepada semua orang dikantor (yang bisa tanyakan), hal yang gue mintakan untuk mendapatkan penggantian adalah memang barang-barang yang diperbolehkan dan sudah menjadi hak gue. 

Tapi keadaan yang terjadi dan menurut manusia yang merasa "mempunyai hak atas diri gue" tidak begitu adanya. Dua ratus ribu rupiah bukan nilai yang kecil buat gue, dan nilai itu yang pada awalnya gue harapkan akan diganti oleh kantor atas pembelian vitamin2. Tapi ternyata "..sejak kapan vitamin bisa diberikan penggantian ??..".

So, sejak itu HAK GUE atas Penggantian Biaya Pengobatan dicoret oleh manusia yang merasa "mempunyai hak atas diri gue" ..... Dilain hal, gue tau kalo manusia itu sering kali memanipulasi kwitansi atas biasa perawatan muka-nya, dan meminta penggantian ke kantor. As I know for sure, kalo dia buat kwitansi itu sesuai asli pasti juga akan dipertanyakan ... Too bad, gue gak sebagus dia untuk hal manipulasi and too bad, nasib manusia itu atas penggantian obat dipegang oleh sang atasan yang .. how to say "asal tanda tangan"..???... HOW COME ??

3. Fasilitas "Hiburan" Dari Kantor.

Banyak banget kalo untuk urusan yang satu ini, dari yang fasilitas "Liburan Tahunan" ampe ke urusan tiket atau voucher gratisan. Hal yang sekarang gue rasa-in adalah yang terakhir. Sejak awal gue tau kalo kantor gue sering banget kerjasama dengan pihak lain dan dapet kompensasi berupa voucher atau tiket-tiket gratisan, sejak itu pula gue tidak pernah merasakan "FASILITAS" tersebut. These few days is the hardest day of "gratisan moment"...

As my friend said who had the same situation as i do, WE ARE THE FORGOTTEN PART !!! ... HOW COME ???

Gue sadar apa yang terjadi ama diri gue disebut "IRI" ..tapi apakah hal itu salah ? Gue tau kalo gue mempunyai hak yang sama dengan mereka semua yang mendapatkan semua itu. Malem ini gue melihat status di Facebook dan foto-foto beberapa temen gue yang mendapatkan "fasilitas" itu... GOD PLEASE TAKE THIS JEALOUSY FEELING INSIDE ME... I can't stand it anymore. I worked as hard as they do but still maybe.... 

Bikin seneng diri gue sendiri aja, kalo semua ini pasti ada maksudnya and gue menunggu saat-saat itu.

Crying at the office ??... Not my 1st time..

Buat orang yang tidak tahu apa2 tentang diri gue dan bagaimana gue menghadapi suatu masalah, and cuma melihat endingnya aja, tears on my face.. Gak bisa disalahin kalo orang akan berpikir kalo gue cengeng..
Gpp kok, terserah kalian mau menyebut gue apa dan terserah kalian kalo apa yang kalian dengar atau lihat itu kemudian kalian jadikan bahan gosip dan akhirnya jadi menilai orang by it's cover..


FYI...
- im not that thin
- im not that weak
- its not easy for me to put tears on my face


Tapi kenapa kemarin sampai kejadian... #sigh, it's been too long guys, wish you only knew. I'm just human, the hardest rock even can be break by a drop of water, lah trus gue ???


And yes, its not my 1st time.. At least you know that, i am a normal girl who could get hurt and can get tears on my face.. 
I can smile and cheer up in front of you, but when i'm alone by my self, i'm just me, a tiny human being in the universe..


Me, who still has tears and sadness..

Who to blame ?

Masih inget dong ama kejadian pelecehan di Bus TransJakarta atau di Kereta atau pun kejadian pemerkosaan di angkot2 itu... Let's talk about that, shall we ?


The big question is "who to blame ?" ...


Malem ini gue baru sampe di terminal lebak bulus jam 10 malem, untuk ukuran perempuan normal jam segitu udah bukan waktunya berkeliaran di terminal nyari angkot mana yang gak nge-tem and langsung mau jalan. Capek nyari angkot, karena ternyata jam segitu semua angkot "doyan nge-tem".. akhirnya dari pada jalan kaki dan diteruskan ngesot pulang kerumah, jadilah gue naik salah satu angkot yang .. well it's full with guys.
SIGH !!!!.... naik atau enggak ya, udah jam 10.15 malam, mo nunggu ampe jam berapa lagi gue. Si sopir tau kalo gue agak ragu2 naik, akhirnya nyuruh temennya yg duduk disebelahnya untuk pindah ke belakang and gue menempati posisi sebagai navigator.. #Jiaaaaahhhh


Tepat didepan gue, angkot warna biru jurusan parung, angkot yang terkenal dengan kecepatannya yg diatas rata-rata karena semua sopirnya pernah ikut test drive untuk F1 yang gak lolos seleksi, akhirnya lah.. jurusan lebak bulus - parung jadi arena mereka, walo pun akhirnya ada juga yg cepat naik kelas a.k.a lewat.. :D
Anyway... persis disebelah angkot biru itu, berdiri 2 cewek #gak jelas ngapain juga mereka, and tempat itu gelap.... Gue yang cewek aja bisa mengatakan bahwa cara berpakaian mereka termasuk "unusual" untuk waktu dan lokasi saat ini, rok yang tingginya 15 cm diatas lutut, ketat, sepatu hak tinggi, dan memasang muka yang "tidak ramah".. mulai lah serangan-serangan itu datang, dari yg cuma suara "suit-suit" lalu panggilan nama yang asal2-an, akhirnya ada yg nekat nyamperin mereka untuk ngajak ngobrol ampe ada yg berani merangkul pinggang salah sati cewek...


" Wooiiiii !!!!!.. Jaga tangan lo bangsat !!!"... wohooooo....seru nih, ribut dong ribut... #setan mulai keluar.. :p


Loh kok marah mba ? ....


See .... semua orang di Republik tercinta ini sedang demam "DEMOKRASI" ... merasa semua orang berhak untuk melakukan apa saja dimana saja, sepanjang apa yang mereka lakukan "tidak menggangu" orang lain.. Is it ??... apakah benar tidak menggangu ??


Di pihak perempuan, "terserah gue dong, ini badan gue, baju apapun yg gue mau pake bukan urusan elo, yang penting gue gak telanjang dimuka umum kok !!" ... #mendingan lo telanjang sekalian mba, yakin dah gak ada yg gangguin, sapa juga yang mau nge-godain orang gila ??... Tapiiiii, memang jaman udah makin maju kok, wanita udah bisa memilih apa yang baik buat mereka sendiri.


Di pihak laki-laki, "ya ampun ada cewek bagus, sayang bener di diemin".. #heeyyy... its human nature, can't blame it either... Tapiiiiii, gak bener juga dong ente main comot, main colek, main pegang.. lo pikir itu perempuan sayur ??.. bisa main lo pegang2 sembarangan ?


JADI MASALAHNYA DIMANA ????....


Menurut gue semua salah, si cewek terlalu moderate karena demokrasi itu sampe lupa ama yang namanya "lingkungan".. emang sih terserah lo mau pake baju model apa, warna tabrakan kayak gimana, tapi once again, liat keadaan bu.. jangan salahin laki2 kalo jadinya iseng karena kebodohan lo sendiri.
And buat si cowok, bos.. tangan ama mulutnya di sekolahin kan ??... apa gak ada yg lebih penting lo lakukan selain memulai keributan yg sebenarnya memang sudah dimulai tanpa sengaja oleh orang lain, intinya ente terpicu untuk meningkatkan "kadar ke-onaran" dimasyarakat itu.


So it would be better for everyone to realize that, we're living among others..


Who to blame ??...  Gak ada asap kalo gak ada api, #maksudnya ??... jawab ndiri ah, nanya mulu.. :D

Bunga Terakhir - Afgan (HD audio video)

Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper

Do you find yourself fuming when someone cuts you off in traffic? Does your blood pressure go through the roof when your child refuses to cooperate? Anger is a normal and even healthy emotion — but it's important to deal with it in a positive way. Uncontrolled anger can take a toll on both your health and your relationships.

Ready to get your anger under control? Start by considering these 10 anger management tips.

No. 1: Take a timeout

Counting to 10 isn't just for kids. Before reacting to a tense situation, take a few moments to breathe deeply and count to 10. Slowing down can help defuse your temper. If necessary, take a break from the person or situation until your frustration subsides a bit.

No. 2: Once you're calm, express your anger

As soon as you're thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but nonconfrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them.

No. 3: Get some exercise

Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other favorite physical activities. Physical activity stimulates various brain chemicals that can leave you feeling happier and more relaxed than you were before you worked out.

No. 4: Think before you speak

In the heat of the moment, it's easy to say something you'll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything — and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.

No. 5: Identify possible solutions

Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Does your child's messy room drive you crazy? Close the door. Is your partner late for dinner every night? Schedule meals later in the evening — or agree to eat on your own a few times a week. Remind yourself that anger won't fix anything, and might only make it worse.

No. 6: Stick with 'I' statements

To avoid criticizing or placing blame — which might only increase tension — use "I" statements to describe the problem. Be respectful and specific. For example, say, "I'm upset that you left the table without offering to help with the dishes," instead of, "You never do any housework."

No. 7: Don't hold a grudge

Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want at all times.

No. 8: Use humor to release tension

Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Don't use sarcasm, though — it can hurt feelings and make things worse.

No. 9: Practice relaxation skills

When your temper flares, put relaxation skills to work. Practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase, such as, "Take it easy." You might also listen to music, write in a journal or do a few yoga poses — whatever it takes to encourage relaxation.

No. 10: Know when to seek help

Learning to control anger is a challenge for everyone at times. Consider seeking help for anger issues if your anger seems out of control, causes you to do things you regret or hurts those around you. You might explore local anger management classes or anger management counseling. With professional help, you can:
-  Learn what anger is
-  Identify what triggers your anger
-  Recognize signs that you're becoming angry
-  Learn to respond to frustration and anger in a controlled, healthy way
-  Explore underlying feelings, such as sadness or depression

Anger management classes and counseling can be done individually, with your partner or other family members, or in a group. Request a referral from your doctor to a counselor specializing in anger management, or ask family members, friends or other contacts for recommendations. Your health insurer, employee assistance program (EAP), clergy, or state or local agencies also might offer recommendations.

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Spectacular Tricks to Teach Your Body

One of the complex machine in the world is nothing but Our human body. There are lot of amazing things that are yet to be learned from the human body. Not all things are know to our body, there are few cool tricks that we can teach our body. So, let's see those cool tips...

 

1. If you've got an itch in your throat, scratch your ear. When the nerves in the ear get stimulated, they create a reflex in the throat that causes a muscle spasm, which cures the itch.
2.  Having trouble hearing someone at a party or on the phone? Use your right ear it's better at picking up rapid speech. But, the left is better at picking up music tones.
3. If you need to relieve yourself BADLY, but you're not anywhere near a bathroom, fantasize about RELATIONS. That preoccupies your brain and distracts it.
4. Next time the doctor's going to give you an injection, COUGH as the needle is going in. The cough raises the level of pressure in your spinal canal, which limits the pain sensation as it tries to travel to your brain.
5. Clear a stuffed nose or relieve sinus pressure by pushing your tongue against the roof of your mouth then pressing a finger between your eyebrows. Repeat that for 20 seconds it causes the vomer bone to rock, which loosens your congestion and clears you up.
6. If you ate a big meal and you're feeling full as you go to sleep, lay on your left side. That'll keep you from suffering from acid reflux it keeps your stomach lower than your esophagus, which will help keep stomach acid from sliding up your throat.
7. You can stop a toothache by rubbing ice on the back of your hand, on the webbed area between your thumb and index finger. The nerve pathways there stimulate a part of the brain that blocks pain signals from your mouth.
8. If you get all messed up on liquor, and the room starts spinning, put your hand on something stable. The reason: Alcohol dilutes the blood in the part of your ear called the cupula, which regulates balance. Putting your hand on something stable gives your brain another reference point, which will help make the world stop spinning.
9. Stop a nose bleed by putting some cotton on your upper gums right behind the small dent below your nose and press against it hard. Most of the bleeding comes from the cartilage wall that divides the nose, so pressing there helps get it to stop.
10. Slow your heart rate down by blowing on your thumb. The vagus nerve controls your heart rate, and you can calm it down by breathing.
11. Need to breathe underwater for a while? Instead of taking a huge breath, HYPERVENTILATE before you go under, by taking a bunch of short breaths. That'll trick your brain into thinking it has more oxygen, and buy you about 10 extra seconds.
12. You can prevent BRAIN FREEZE by pressing your tongue flat against the roof of your mouth, covering as much surface area as possible. Brain freeze happens because the nerves in the roof of your mouth get extremely cold, so your brain thinks your whole body is cold. It compensates by overheating which causes your head to hurt. By warming up the roof of your mouth, you'll chill your brain and feel better.
13. If your hand falls asleep, rock your head from side to side. That will wake your hand or arm up in less than a minute. Your hand falls asleep because of the nerves in your neck compressing so loosening your neck is the cure. If your foot falls asleep, that's governed by nerves lower in the body, so you need to stand up and walk around.
14. Finally, this one's totally USELESS, but a nice trick. Have someone stick their arm out to the side, straight, palm down. Press down on his wrist with two fingers. He'll resist, and his arm will stay horizontal. Then, have him put his foot on a surface that's half an inch off the ground, like a stack of magazines, and do the trick again. Because his spine position is thrown off, his arm will fall right to his side, no matter how much he tries to resist.
15. Got the hiccups? Press thumb and second finger over your eyebrows until the hiccups are over - usually shortly.

Ricardo & Friends - I love you daddy.avi

Another ... :(

• Another sad news;
• Another time to survive;
• Another moment to realize that soon or later i won't be able to be with him anymore;
• Another mixed up inside me; 
• Another hurt i feel for unable to do more than i did; 
• Another fake smile on my face just because I don't wanna him to know that "i am really sorry daddy ... :(", 
• Another tears and apologize .. 

7 Ucapan Terbaik Whitney Houston

1. Sejak awal, kamera dan saya itu bersahabat. Ia mencintai saya dan saya mencintainya.
2. Tuhan memberi saya suara untuk menyanyi, dan ketika Anda memilikinya, apakah ada tipu muslihat di sana?
3. Saya percaya bahwa anak-anak adalah masa depan kita. Ajari mereka dengan baik dan biarkan mereka memilih jalannya sendiri. Tunjukkan pada mereka hal-hal terindah yang mereka miliki di dalam dirinya.
4. Saya sudah putuskan sejak dulu bahwa saya tidak akan mau berjalan di belakang bayangan siapa pun. Jika saya gagal atau jika saya sukses setidaknya itu adalah yang saya lakukan dan saya percayai.
5. Akhirnya saya menghadapi kenyataan bahwa tak memiliki teman itu bukan kejahatan. Menjalani hidup sendirian berarti Anda memiliki sedikit masalah.
6. Saya suka menjadi perempuan bahkan saat berada di dunia laki-laki. Laki-laki tak bisa menggunakan gaun, tetapi kita (perempuan) bisa menggunakan celana panjang.
7. 'Setan' terbesar itu (ada di diri) saya. Saya tak lagi bisa membedakan (narkotika) sebagai sahabat baik saya atau pun musuh terbesar saya.

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